“Caught & Taught Behavior” by QACP Parent Educator, Kate Calhoun

 

‘TAUGHT’ Behavior – Creating Rules That Stick

We can teach many things to children when we use simple, clear words to explain and enforce rules and guidelines.  With young children it’s best to choose only a few words to tell about the rules. Their attention span is short and they will not listen for long. Make every word count.

Put the verbs, the action words first in your request or direction. Say: ‘Keep the sand in the sensory table’, rather than ‘Don’t throw the sand!’    Say: ‘Touch the kitty gently’, rather than ‘Stop that! You’re hurting the kitty!’    Say: ‘Draw on the paper’, rather than ‘You’re getting crayon marks all over the table!’

It’s best when your words and actions are congruent and give the same message.

QACP_YuliHeart

‘CAUGHT’ Behavior – Kids Learn Behavior by Watching You

We are constantly teaching our children how to behave, even when we’re not actively teaching with our words. Children’s brains are designed to learn by watching. They learn new behaviors by continually observing their parents and others in the environment around them.

What are you teaching your children when they see your everyday behavior?

  • Do you smile or laugh a lot?
  • Are you patient or impatient, soft-spoken or loud?
  • Do you exercise, eat healthy, take some time for yourself?
  • Do you make eye contact when you talk?
  • Do you and your spouse express affection, have fun, argue, or problem-solve together?
  • Can you calm yourself down when emotions run strong?
  • Are you consistently distracted by your phone and other devices?
  • Do you have meaningful relationships with family and friends?

Become aware of which behaviors you feel proud to pass on to your child. Decide which behaviors you’d prefer to change or eliminate.

Remember that ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS. Make sure that the actions your child observes you doing are the behaviors you intend to teach.

Author Kate Calhoun is a Parent Educator for Queen Anne Cooperative Preschool (QACP). She regularly works with co-op families via her teaching assignments through both Edmonds Community College and Seattle Central Community College. This article was a part of Kate’s Winter 2017 educational series. The material she references is based on John Medina’s presentation for educators in Everett, WA (January 8, 2011) and in his book entitled: Brain Rules for Baby – How to Raise a Smart and Happy Child from Zero to FivePear Press  2010.

“Letters From QACP Teachers: Linda Capps & Amy Wathey (May/June 2017)”

QACP_TeacherLinda7780369_orig

Dear Parents:

Each year when May rolls around and we prepare for the spring pageant I am shocked that the year has disappeared so quickly.  I have had such wonderful classes this year, both children and parents, and I’m looking forward to so many of you sharing your children with me again next year.

As my Pre-K class moves on to kindergarten I wish each child a happy and exciting new school experience.  For all of you parents, as you watch your little person become one of the “big kids” I wish you peace as you let go and comfort in knowing you have been amazing parents and your child is so ready for this new adventure.

Have a wonderful summer!

Teacher Linda

QACP_linda-capps-picture

 

Growth in Imagination:

Just looking at the cubbie pictures of the children from the first weeks of school, shows how much they have grown.  My hope is that all of us have grown as well.  There have been leaps and bounds of growth in friendships, independence, group skills, creativity and more.

One area of the room that has been a delight to explore and enrich for the children this year has been the dramatic play area.  In the fall we purchased some new furniture for the house and the grocery store. The children truly enjoy the new strollers, high chairs and cribs for the baby dolls.  The grocery store has been used constantly and remains a favorite for all the classes.

For a change of pace the dramatic play area has transformed into various situations. We’ve had a tree house, haunted house, doctor’s office, post office, an ocean, a longhouse and a rainforest.  Each situation has sparked imagination.

May this summer bring new opportunities to explore and expand dramatic play with your little ones.  When using your imagination, the options are limitless.

May you all continue to grow and learn!

Teacher Amy

QACP_amy-wathey-picture

Biographies for both Teacher Linda and Teacher Amy may be found on QACP’s website at: https://queenannecoop.org/about-2/teachers/

QACPpreK_fromDEWA